Dear Alexander,

When you asked met to write something for your website, Marbus.net, I did it with all my love. If there was a slip of the pen, you changed it for me. Or you changed a part of a sentence. Now, Leoni asked me to write something for your new website. Of course, now I do it again with a lot of love, but also with a lot of sadness and pain in my heart. I have to do it all by myself now and that is one of the things I remember; how much I miss you. That is why I have decided to write down the funeral oration I wrote for you.

"Dear Alexander,

When I was a little girl, I wanted to have a little brother or sister. I was 8 years old when Leoni was born and almost 2 years later my brother, Alexander, was born. I was so happy. I taught you how to cycle, roller skate and played with you in the sandbox. You got up to some mischief, like any other boy. You painted Leoni's bed with a felt tip. You painted my wardrobe with nailpolish. You played truant from school. You overslept before your exam, but you managed to pass the exam anyway.

You're also a family man. Proud of his parents, sisters, brothers in law, nephew. We contacted each other every day. By telephone, email or MSN, or you stopped by. Yordie is your best friend, you called him "Yordemans". Yordie wanted to hug you all the time, but you used to say: "Not now, I'm not in the mood".But at the end of the day, you to were hugging each other.

After a difficult time last year, you were back on track again. A beautiful big house, your pride  & joy. A lot of friends and girl-friends.

Everyone who knew you, knew that they could always come to you, with any kind of problem. Even in the middle of the night. You did everything you could to help.

You had so many plans. We were going on holiday in February, rebuilding your kitchen in March , and you were going to a Metallica concert on your birthday, together with Edwin en Theo.

You did not plan to say goodbye, you were in the full bloom of your life. You are my brother, my mate, my darling. Alexander, we all love you so much and miss you so badly. Make fun over there, look at all the beautiful women and make sure that you eat well. Take care. Lots of love. We'll meet again.

Love Ria